Married people need side hustles too

(Before reading the post, read the title again but this time, sing it to Samantha Fox’s “Naughty Girls (Need Love Too)”. Makes it better, right?)

The Single Saver recently wrote a post that discussed why single people need a side hustle. I totally agree with her. Having that extra income does make numerous situations facing single people significantly easier.  But I need to add that married people need a side hustle, too.

As one half of a married couple, I’m the first one to admit that married people, overall, have an easier time financially. If both partners are employed, that’s double the income which means more money to cover the bills that single people generally have to absorb on their own. And, if the couple can manage to avoid the lifestyle creep that tends to happen with increased income, it is possible for a family to live on one income and save the other (this hasn’t happened in my house but from what I understand, it can happen). These certainly give a married couple a significant benefit over a single person.

However, married couples do face similar challenges of single people. Married couples still need to pay bills and eat and save. We still need to pay a mortgage or rent. We still have pets and kids to take care of (well, some of us do). But even more than that, having side hustles helps married couples in a number of ways:

  • Debt repayment. Two people sometimes means double the debt, either individual debt that’s brought into a relationship or debt that was accumulated together. In my relationship, we had both. We each entered the marriage with our own debt and then accumulated even more together. The fact that both of us had part-time jobs enabled us to pay down our individual and collective debt that much faster.
  • Disposable income. At the beginning of our marriage, and for many years afterwards, we had very little income to go around. Almost everything we earned went straight to our debt repayment as well as our normal monthly bills. Every once and while, we’d work an odd job that we designated as our fun money. We’d use it to treat ourselves to a movie or to dinner.  Now that we’re pretty much consumer debt free, it’s nice to have that extra income to put towards savings or retirement.
  • Income insurance. Not in the sense of car insurance or homeowner’s insurance but insurance in the event that one person loses his (or her) full-time job for whatever reason (layoff, medical reason, injury). For instance, if my husband were to lose his job, he still has his part-time job that provides a decent amount of income. The additional income that he brings in would soften the blow of losing his full-time income.
  • Death. Spouses die. It’s a fact. If a spouse dies, expectedly or unexpectedly, the financial consequences can be damaging (this is also why life insurance is so important and I’m yet again reminded that I really need to get some) especially if the spouse that dies is the higher income earner. That extra income can help offset the financial stress.
  • Relationship problems. Speaking from experience, spouses cheat. There is nothing worse than the feeling that you can’t leave a relationship that you are unhappy with because you can’t afford it. By having a side hustle, or part-time job, it’s possible to build up a savings account or have the extra income necessary to leave. I don’t necessarily advocate this as an option but sometimes, a relationship cannot be salvaged. Having the financial means to terminate the relationship provides necessary peace of mind.
As The Single Saver points out, side hustles and part-time income are not intended to replace full-time income; they are merely a supplement. But sometimes that supplemental income can provide a vital lifeline in extenuating, and not so extenuating, circumstances. 

Readers: If you’re married or in a relationship, what do you think of having a side hustle or part-time job? Do you have one? How do you use the money? 


Comments

Married people need side hustles too — 17 Comments

  1. I love this term, Side Hustle.

    And yeah.. Having 2 folks, means double the opportunities, to find places to earn a few extra bucks.

    Of course, I know you talked about this recently, but if one of you stays home with the kids.. the need for “Side Hustles” increases even moreso!
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  2. Jana, I think having a side hustle or part time job is a good thing for sure if you do not have an emergency fund and still have consumer debt to pay off. The only problem comes in when you start living on the three incomes if married. Robin and I were TRINKS (triple income no kids) for 8 years and were not very wise. We drove nice cars and traveled. We were all flash and no cash. Once you get your finances in place then you can start using the extra income to Give, Save or Invest and of course have some fun. We would love to take our 2 children and their spouses on a family cruise and pick up the tab… Good post!!
    Jeff
    Debt Free Squad
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  3. Since I haven’t found “two live more cheaply than one” to be more than the tiniest bit true for us, I think married couples and singles need side incomes just as much.

    That said, we don’t have any. We’re not permitted to have second jobs and none of our random other income sources really qualify, I think. Maybe our blog will generate a little income eventually, but not yet.

    I keep trying to convince my husband to write smartphone apps. He has had a couple good unique ideas and part-way completed the code but so far hasn’t followed through the whole process. That’s real passive income, once the project is completed!
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  4. I agree, for us it helps allow for some extra disposable income which we wouldn’t otherwise have. My blog is my side hustle. My wife has a couple of great ideas but the problem is she keeps giving the stuff away for free to family and friends and doesn’t leave time to actually make money off it!
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  5. Samantha Fox had 1 great album then disappeared. She dressed a little more slutty than Madonna, so that was also pretty cool :-)

    I don’t see what the difference would be between singles or marrieds or just live-ins. I think everyone should have something going on on the side if they can in order to boost household cash flow.

    Needing/wanting/benefiting from more money isn’t relationship-status-biased to my knowledge.
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  6. You mention that couples (overall) have an easier time financially….obviously there are always exceptions. One challenge that couples have is a conflict between how to apply their income. If those differences in expectations are not resolved, that leads to a very rough road.

    From a side hustle perspective, blogging is my side hustle, as well as secret shopping. Right now, the money is just plopped into the general budget “bucket.” We throw all our income into a pile, and budget from there.
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